So, this week I’ve actually got a non-book, non-film quote for you all. But it’s on a subject that I hold dear to my heart; happiness. I remembering hearing this quote and it just stuck in my mind and I always come back to it whenever I’m having a bad day and it makes me remember that it’s okay to not always be happy.
We’re always thinking that someday we’ll be happy; we’ll get that car or that job or that person in our lives that’ll fix everything. But happiness is a mood, and it’s a condition, not a destination. It’s like being tired or hungry, it’s not permanent. It comes and goes, and that’s okay. And I feel like if people thought of it that way, they’d find happiness a lot more often.
– Julian Baker, One Tree Hill
I love this quote. Like, hand on heart, head on pillow, love this. It’s just so perfect and I honestly could not agree more. Every aims for happiness, they aim to reach it’s destination by doing the things they think will equal it. Surrounding themselves with friends, buying things, getting a job, reading, watching movies and while these things are all good and they can indeed, make us happy, and that is brilliant and it is, as humans, what we need, but it isn’t the end all of everything. It’s overrated.
By this, I mean, that it’s okay to feel sad or angry or depressed or alone because without these feelings, without the negative ones, we’d never appreciate the positive ones like being in love, feeling happy and safe and secure. We can never know happiness until we’ve known pain. Kids understand this more than anyone. They can feel happy, scrape their knee, cry and then get up and carry on. They know that it’s okay to cry, that it’s okay to be sad for a little bit because in a while it’ll be over and they can get on with their lives.
I feel this can be said of everyone. We may feel sad at times, we may feel like the world is weighing us down and holding us back and that we’ll never feel happy again but it’s the knowledge that, at the end of the day, happiness will come and it may be fleeting but it will be there that makes everything okay. Things will never be perfect and trying to get to this point will only lead to sadness. Happiness may not be a destination, but it will be impossible to be happy if the journey we’re on is surrounded by what we feel is failure.
In the end all, I feel that this quote means that it’s okay to be sad at times, it’s okay to let the world get us down because we are only human. But I also feel that it’s trying to say that to help us be okay with ourselves is to be free. To let the world go on around us without trying to overthink and overanalyse things, but to just be.
Or something like that anyway.
What do you think? Do you agree that happiness isn’t a destination but a mood? Do you agree with me? Or do you have something else in mind? :)