*I know, it’s not Friday but thursday but it’s still my thoughts so… yeah.*
A few weeks ago I stumbled across a blog post or a blog (I’ve incidentally lost the link so you may have to take me at my word, sorry!) that was wholly devoted to bloggers that a) comment back and b) respond to comments on their blog. These were bloggers almost promising that if they get a comment on their blog, they will respond to that comment AND visit the commenter’s own blog and comment somewhere on it. Initially this is not an issue. If people feel that this is what they want to do, then good for them. What infuriated me was that this post/blog also insinuated that any blogger who doesn’t do these things are “bad” bloggers and not worthy of being followed. (This was never mentioned but my own interpretation of the situation).
*insert angry red face here*
Then, the other day, I noticed that Amber at The Mile Long Bookshelf had written a post about this new “system” where bloggers tweet you or message to ask for comments on ther blog or saying they won’t comment on your blog until you comment on theirs. Ummm….. oooookay.
*insert shifty eyes here*
Now, Amber summed this up pretty well by arguing that she comments on posts that are worthy of comments (*nods head in agreement*) and that asking for comments or withholding comments can be seen as spam. And in a way, that is also correct because you’re initially offering your services only as a trade for anothers’ services. It’s a bit like someone calling to say “We’ll come and clean your windows but only if you clear our driveaway of snow.” – which, between friends is acceptable, but not when it comes down to strangers.
*insert freaked out face here*
What I’m saying is that if there is a new trend of bloggers “sharing” comments, then that’s fine for them to do so, as long as they don’t start cold calling the rest of us bloggers who will comment on whatever posts they want to. After all, each to their own, yes?
*insert crazy nodding guy here*
Moving on from this slightly, I want to tell you why I don’t always respond to every comment on my blog and why I don’t always comment “back”. I have a full time job, and it is a very demanding one at that. Working with the public every day is incredibly draining and there are times when I come home, eat dinner and then simply fall asleep. Add to that a second job, a blog, two youtube channels and a social life and you may start to see where my life could be stretching thin.
So my time is limited. Therefore I’m not going to waste my time responding to comments that don’t need a response. So you’ve told me you like my choices for top ten but asked no questions or given me anything to respond to, are you really expecting a “Thank You” comment? Don’t get me wrong, I am incredibly grateful you’ve stopped by and I am thankful but I’d rather* respond to the comment above yours as the person has asked me about x book I’ve mentioned. Of course, if I had the time, I would definitely say thank you, but at the moment, I just don’t.
What I do, do, however, is go and visit every blog that comments on mine. It may not be on the same day (I probably don’t have the time – are you seeing a pattern?) but I will eventually wander over. Then, once I’m on that blog, I’ll look around and if I like what I see, I’ll likely hit that follow button. I’ll also look at a few posts but unless it seems I will be adding something significant**, I probably won’t comment but that doesn’t mean I don’t like what I see. If I do like it, I might tweet, favourite the post, or even share it in my Weekly Highlights. Or I may even use it as inspiration for a post. (Notice, I never commented on Amber’s post mentioned above). So while I may not comment “back”, I still go and see and sometimes even share.
*insert proud beam here*
Now that you know why I don’t always comment, do you think of me as a bad blogger?
And what do you feel about commenting and comments themselves? Do you comment? Do you not comment? As a blogger would you prefer comments or your posts being shared?
Feel free to let me know on twitter too, I love conversing over there!
* This sounds harsher than intended, but I hope you realise what I mean.
** I’m like this off the blog as well. If I don’t feel like I have anything new to contribute, I usually don’t speak.