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SPEAK OUT AGAINST BULLYING

Bullying is something that is cruel, hurtful, and completely and utterly unnessecary! Too many teenagers spend their time being ‘attacked’ in several different ways and it is just awful. But, does it stop there? 

Of course not!
Bullying is not, and will never be, limited to just teenagers. It is something that continues to happen, even amongst adults and especially now that the internet has become such a looming success. 
This blog hop is being hosted by K. M. Parr and K. C. Neal because K. M. Parr was bullied after she released her first ever novel. She was mocked for her accomplishment and I, for one, am apalled by this behaviour. It takes so much courage and strength to put your work out there for the world to see and I seriously applaud everyone who does it. It is my dream to one day become published but first I have to get over that little voice in my head telling me that no one would ever want to read my words. So, with all of that in my mind, how dare someone try to belittle this great achievement!
It was due to this that together, the two authors decided to host a blog hop for bloggers to speak out against bullying and that is exactly what I plan to do right now. This post will possibly be the most personal post I have yet to post on this blog, and I hope that I’m not judged for doing so! In an attempt to speak out, I have decided to explain how I spent a lot of my teenage years.
*my school didn’t have lockers, this is just a generic photo
So, it all started when I was just eleven years old and for the first time in my life I was starting a new school completely on my own. A daunting prospect, but I was ready for every single challenge that could have been thrown my way. That is, of course, until one challenge was thrown at me that I almost didn’t bounce back from. 
I was thirteen years old when the insults started being thrown. At first it was easy to ignore, “you’re fat”, “you’re worthless”, “you have no friends”, because I knew that they were just trying to intimidate me. But then, the days grew on and the insults grew strength, they became more structured and clever and seemed to paint the picture of my life. I couldn’t just ignore it anymore. 


That was during a time when the internet was just in its infancy but I soon came across a site that I soon fell to love; Neopets. This may be a familiar site to some of you and it was one that actually helped make me a stronger person. Yes I loved the games and the challenges that were across the site but it was the forums that really grabbed me. There I made friends with people from across the country and it was on this site that I finally told someone about the bullying and they pointed me in the direction of helpful website forums dedicated solely to helping people in similiar situations to me. I joined immediately


I cannot remember what the site is called anymore, but I do know that it was due to that site that I managed to walk into school every day with a smile on my face and was able to ignore the bullies again. Sometimes their words, taunts and laughs would make my smile faulter but then I would go home, log on to the forums and spend time talking to some of the best people I ever could have met and was just greeted by so much support that I became so much stronger. I realised that I was being bullied because I was different. I was one of the smartest people in my year group and my peers were threatened by that, I wasn’t part of their “norm” and they wanted me to feel like an outcast and as soon as I realised that, life became bearable again.


So, today, I want to reach out to everyone who is currently being bullied and tell you that I am here to support you. I am a victim and I know what you’re going through and if you ever just need someone to vent to, please, e-mail me. I also want you to know that you are strong, possibly one of the strongest people in the world because you are dealing with what is happening to you, and you are better than them


Never give up. Never stop fighting. (To stay happy, not physical fighting). Always remember that no matter what happens, you are loved, you are special and you are so, so, so beautiful and wonderful and if people can’t see it then that’s their problem because you are worth a thousand of them. They want to be you. Never forget that.


Also, if you are being bullied, please check out these websites; 
UK; Bullying UK
INT; MD Junction; People Helping People
INT; Bully Support Group Directory
UK; Bullying Support Groups


Alternatively, have a search on Google, there are plenty of forums out there to help you. Not all will suit you, but don’t give up hope, you will soon stumble across one where you feel welcome and loved, as you should do. And like I said before, I am also here to lend a shoulder to anyone that needs it. Ever. PERIOD.

I'm just a twenty-two year old girl who has a passion for everything related to books, films and writing. I'm a part-time librarian, sharing my love of books and films with the world. I'm from the UK and love everything about the country. If you want to know more about me, feel free to follow me on twitter, add me on Facebook or e-mail me! :-)

5 Comments

  • Lucy

    This was a very brave post to write. Having been bullied myself, I also know how hurtful and damaging it can be but you have to remember you are stronger than the bully!
    Lucy <3

    • Daydreaming_Star

      -nods- exactly.

      This is actually the second edition. The first one I was going to post was even more personal but I decided I wasn’t ready to post it, reliving it as I wrote it was damaging enough :/
      But thank you.
      I like to think that while secondary school was a horrible time for me, I can be proud that I am where I am now, just about to finish my third year of uni and my bullies are still in the slums of their lives, most of whom are already single mums or pregnant and alone. They are washed out, and I’m on my way to success.
      While I’ll never really wish ill-will on anyone, knowing that I’m stronger and better and have done something with my life just helps to make it a little better for me.

      Faye <3

  • Theta Sigma

    Thank you for sharing your story. I was bullied at school and, to some extent, it’s affected me into my adult life with my self-confidence.

    My confidence at school was so low that I hid the fact that I wanted to learn so much, that I basically decided to keep my head down and flunk my exams. (Although, I made the effort within the couple of years following my initial sitting and passed a respectable number of them).

    However, one thing I’ve found since I’ve grown with age (though some of my friends my say not in maturity) is that I’ve taken back control by winning “little victories”. I have a family structure that gives me strength and loves me as much as I love them. I’ve made friends who are and will always be true life long friends. I’ve taken a diploma through my workplace and learned things about myself that I never thought I was capable of accomplishing. I’ve encouraged other people to take up learning opportunities to help them.

    Whilst they are victories that are somewhat delayed in the overall scheme of things, they’re still victories and they take away the power that the bullies had over me all those years ago.

    • Daydreaming_Star

      -hugs-
      I’m sorry to hear this happened, thank you for sharing it with me and I am so glad to hear that things are turning around for you. I agree that the damage inflicted is still carried around with me today. I have low self-esteem and get paranoid easily, often thinking people will laugh at me or sneer at some of the things I do. I try to remember that not everyone is as childish and immature as the bullies I grow up around but it is sometimes difficult.
      But, we’re all stronger than the bullies and must remember that we can get the power back, even if it is only in the little ways.

      Faye :)

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