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Behind the Blog #4 – Connecting The Lines

Behind the Blog is a meme to help bloggers connect their life and interests to the content showcased on their blog. The co-hosts, Faye, Kathe, and Melissa will provide a different topic, idea, or question every week that bloggers can relate to themselves and the books, films, or other media they find interesting! 
Our theme this week is Snail Mail.  In the  age of instant gratification, technology is everywhere. Through Twitter, Facebook, and email, we’re always connected. As an unfortunate result, letter writing seems to have become a dying art. Even so, the thrill of getting a letter or card in the mail from a dear friend never seems to diminish. Do you like to write letters, or do you prefer email or social media sites? Have you ever been part of a pen pal program? Book related questions: What are some books you’ve read and enjoyed that have letter writing as a key component? What about some films? Do you ever take part in bookswaps? (They’re like a pen pal program but with books!)

I love to write letters. The personal touch of writing (and receiving) a handwritten letter is one of the little things in life that I just truly enjoy. Unfortunately, however, it is not something that happens to me very often – especially lately. As I grew up, I would spend a lot of time writing in old notebooks – mostly poems and songs – and I never went anywhere without a book to write in. At this point the idea of writing a letter to someone in a different country or town just did not occur to me. Then, at the age of nine I received my very first computer. At first it was used only for video games, and then I discovered word and it was used for my writing as well.

Skip forward four years and I found out about the internet and I simply became obsessed. I quickly discovered neopets and then proboards and, ultimately, roleplaying. I loved to write and being able to write with like-minded individuals was just… amazing to me. But, I never felt it was possible to send out my mailing address because as soon as I learnt about the internet, I also got it drilled into me about the dangers of the internet. So I connected to a fair amount of people online – a fair few who became my very best friends, who knew me better than my IRL friends and it made me itch to write to them – I had been speaking to them for years, surely if they weren’t who they said they were, I would know, right? But still, I stopped myself from asking for their addresses, despite knowing that most were all the way across the ocean in the US.

It was not until I turned seventeen that I sent my very first hand-written letter. It was to my friend Christy who was currently in Canada, the very country that I would be visiting the next year. I had known her for four years before I wrote that letter and boy did I gush! When she told me it had arrived, I was elated – surely there couldn’t be a better feeling? Then, she took the time out of her busy schedule to write one back and that letter was proudly hung on my wall – until I left for Uni and it had to be taken with me. Then, at christmas, we sent each other presents and it was great and I realised how much I wanted to continue writing letters so I ended up asking my other RP friends if I could write them letters. I sent quite a few and loved each and every one I sent, and every one I received back.

When I went to Canada, letter writing became my forte. Yes, I could tell all my friends about what was happening on Facebook but it was never as personal. I sent all of my best friends continuous letters and I even started writing letters to my grandma! I always loved receiving letters from her and hearing about her life and I will cherish those letters until my very last breath. Then, when I returned from Canada and had to head off to uni, my letter writing, unfortunately dwindled. I got too busy with university life and work and I just didn’t have time so eventually it all just stopped and has never picked up since. The longest letter I have written recently was to Kathe when I sent her a book and it was rushed and not very great and that deeply depresses me. I think, one day, I will take up letter-writing again but in the mean time, I will stick to e-mail, Facebook and Twitter.

On that note, while I love snail mail, I have also found that e-mail can be a great way to communicate. In this day and age, just as sitting down and writing a letter can take a while, so can sitting down and writing an e-mail – especially a nice, personal one. While I have had many e-mail pals, there is one who I will always remember – Brodie from Eleusinian Mysteries of Reading. Yes, that’s right. Way back when the two of us used to RP together but then, as things naturally do online, it all just sort of dwindled. A year or so after our co-admin’ed site had died, I realised that I missed the girl I spent a lot of time talking to and so I sent her an e-mail. She wrote back and we soon decided that we should become e-mail pals. We wrote to each other every so often – nice and lengthy e-mails about our lives, our goals, our futures and it was great. But again, our time dwindled and soon the e-mails became few and far between. Eventually we decided that we had come too far to just stop communicating altogether so we vowed that, if nothing else, we would send each other an e-mail on our birthdays. This year (or well last) was the first year that didn’t happen because we both now have blogs and twitter and our connection has once again been rekindled. Honestly, as corny as it may seem, I still couldn’t be happier. She is probably my oldest friend online and I love that about our friendship.

Relating this topic back to books, my favourite book – or the most memorable, anyway – that is set out with letters is Where Rainbows End by Celia Ahern
This book is so memorable because it is fairly romantic and cute, but also because the communication between Rosie and Alex isn’t just letters but it is e-mail and notes as well and it is just such a lovely story! You can really tell how much they meant to each other and I just loved it.
I will also have to include, Dear John by Nicholas Sparks
This book is simply incredible. It was the first Nicholas Sparks book that I read, and I was so completely hooked on it. The film adaptation simply doesn’t do the book justice – and I damn well loved the film – and I just love the letters in this book. They totally broke my heart

Relating this topic back to films, I am again cheating this week with a film adaptation. The few films that I can think of that involve letters are book adaptations – but probably because it’d be hard to have an original film focussing on letter writing as that is a reading medium.
The first to mention is Atonement (2007), which wasn’t written as letters within the novel and the film doesn’t completely centre on the letters but the ones that are mentioned are really important to the rest of the film and just bring it all together.
And secondly, while I know this one doesn’t evolve around letter-writing per say, I still love it and feel that it needs to be mentioned here. I, of course, mean, You’ve Got Mail (1998) – because who doesn’t love this movie?
It is just such a touching story – a love that blossoms from e-mails and a love of books. Awwh!

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  • Amanda

    i love getting letters but am too lazy to really get into writing them back and sending them, although it is fun. emailing was cool when i first got it but now it just reminds me of working and the emails you get that give you more things to do, no fun. I guess I would have to say I use facebook messaging to catch up with friends or family the most.

  • Brodie

    Is that the same Christy from NH? Ahh it totally is! I remember going on msn once and she messaged me while you were visiting her: the Brit and the Canadian in the same room at the same time! TRIPPY :P Totally random, but the minute I read her name on your post, that just clicked. SO awesome you got to visit a friend you’d formed such a connection with for years online. Bless the invention of international travel.

    Aw geez… you’re making me nostalgic! Hee, I just had a search through my email and found an 18th birthday email you sent me <3 I miss those days. I miss Hermy and Bice and Sasha and Zachary and the dozen other characters we both played. And the real life Brodie and Faye (although I always call you something different in my head haha) exchanging emails and msn chats. But the memories stay forever and thankfully, some of the friends stick around forever too. Even though our contact has flourished and dwindled over the years, we’ll always be friends. And considering I get to stalk you via blog AND twitter nowadays, there’s not much chance of you getting away again :P

    I love snail mail, I’m just terrible at keeping up with it. I used to be on SO many different pen pal sites when I was younger and corresponded with some amazing people. It’s so cool to receive a letter from someone in an entirely separate continent and way of life. I’d like to do it again some time, but I’d actually need to COMMIT to it, because I feel bad when I’m… well, bad and don’t respond.

    I love this post, Faye! <3

    • Faye Rogers

      Were you around for the Quackerz days? Or the Jammy days?


      I had so many RP nicknames… hell, I just have so many nicknames! hehe. <3

      I LOVE YOUR COMMENT. So we’re even :P <3

  • Melissa

    This is such a great post! I love how letter writing has become a part of your life in different stages, when it’s needed, like when you were in Canada. I also love how some of your oldest friends are email pals, that’s just awesome. I do love the internet for the way that it connects us with people all over the world. Without it, I never would have found your blog!

    A lot of people I know just don’t quite understand how people can develop such deep friendships over the internet. They just don’t think it’s possible I guess. But, as you know, you can have great friendships with people you’ve met online. I met my boyfriend online. We were friends for about two years, and then we started dating. I’ve known him for 9 years, and we’ve been dating for almost 7, so online friendships really do last.

    I’m definitely going to check out Where Rainbows End because it seems like a great story. I’ve seen Atonement and I really enjoyed it. I have to admit though, I’ve never seen You’ve Got Mail. :S

    • Faye Rogers

      Awwwh, that’s so cute about your boyfriend <3 I am so glad about that!
      And I know what you mean about people not understanding online friendships! I was actually very … cautious … about it when I started uni but now I’m like, whatever, I don’t care! xD I wouldn’t be here or where I am if it wasn’t for some of the people I know from online!

      Dude. You need to watch You’ve Got Mail – it’s a classic! xDD hehe. #justsaying

  • Ashna Banga

    This week’s topic has really inspired me, you know. I realized how much I’m missing. I admit I don’t do the handwritten letter writing anymore, as much as I’d love to, maybe because I tend to get lazy sometimes (many times? :|)

    It’s great that you’re already into it! Loved reading your post! :)

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